Let The Healing Continue
Zaneen Thompson
In light of the recent events impacting our nation, what advice would you give to people in order to help them navigate the uncertainty?
Sit with your moments of uncertainty. Do not pretend you are ok if you are not. You unjustly serve yourself when you don't acknowledge your fear, hurt, anger, or pain. When we chose not to, we mask who we are and then you make decisions that do not reflect your authentic self. Trace the cause of the uncertainty, acknowledge it, and do the work to shift from that space. Don't stay there!
Please share one or two available resources that can help people right now.
You have to feed yourself. My Faith is number one. I have to read material that strengthens my faith and correct any maladaptive thoughts and behaviors rooted in my past trauma and life experiences that can exasperate the current events we are experiencing. So the word of God is number 1. Connected to that is Bible Plans through the Bible App which allows me to complete plans according to areas I need to grow in or challenge myself.
The second resource I would suggest is Queenology by RC Blakes for women. This book is a clarion call to the inner queen of women from the voice of a father. I have a heart for women and being a woman who dealt with trauma, I believe part of the healing process is affirmations to who you are and called to be. Just because we are in a pandemic does not mean your personal development stops. You don't want to compact issues.
What is your personal mission in life?
My personal mission is the Encourage, Educate, Inspire, and Usher Healing to women, especially those who do not realize their childhood trauma is affecting their adult decisions.
What is one of the biggest challenges you have overcome?
Forgiving myself for the guilt of not knowing better!!! For the longest I was my worst critic for decisions I made immaturely. It took growing, healing, and maturing in order to forgive the broken me.
What was one action that helped you overcome this challenge?
Counseling HONEY!!!!! I have my masters in counseling and while I was learning how to be present with others through their process, God was healing me in mine. We need to break the stigma of counseling/therapy in the Black Community. The phrase, 'What happens in this house, stays in this house', has a lot of individuals holding on to false narratives. Get some help in a safe space to unpack your trauma.
How do you define leadership?
I would define leadership as the willingness to go first. It is hard to steer people where you yourself have not been. I also believe leadership comes with a level of transparency. People need to know you are real and relatable. That insight gives people hope their situation can change for the better and how to navigate through troubled life waters as you have.
What advice would you give to someone that is ashamed to share their story?
I would tell them to sit and really trace where the shame is originating from. We carry shame sometimes that is not even ours to bear especially for acts committed against us. There is a freedom that comes from sharing your story. And let me clarify something. Sharing your story does not mean it has to be on a large platform. Honey in the beginning it can be coming to terms with sharing it with yourself!!! You are the first partaker of that fruit.
How can people reach you?
I'm on Facebook as Zaneen Thompson.
I'm also on Facebook and IG under Arise Tamar
I can also be reached at ariseuptamar@gmail.com
Zaneen Thompson Bio
Zaneen Thompson is an Accounting Processor at a Fortune 100 Food Service Company in Orlando, Florida. After hitting a glass ceiling in Corporate America, she decided to pursue a degree in accounting to push through the promotional barriers she was facing. However, during the 1st month of enrollment in her degree program, she endured a life-altering event which changed her degree program and ignited her life’s passion.
She holds an undergraduate degree in Human Services from the University of Phoenix and a Graduate degree in Counseling minoring in Marriage, Family, and Couples therapy from Palm Beach Atlantic University. She is also a Certified Life Coach through the Life Coach Institute of Orange County. Zaneen’s primary passion is to empower, encourage, inspire, and user women through healing specifically in the area of unresolved childhood trauma affecting adulthood unaware.
Zaneen believes the true authenticity of who you are begins to shine when you are heal and that women need to be intentional about their healing. She believes the pace is not important but the progression is.
Compiled by Tanysha W Carroll Executive Coordinator www.tanyshawcarroll.com