In light of the recent events impacting our nation, what advice would you give to people in order to help them navigate the uncertainty?
In the face of an overwhelming tidal wave of bad news about the coronavirus, what we need most right now are daily reminders of our better human selves. An extraordinary unraveling is occurring, and no one will be untouched. The social and economic disruptions of this crisis will be deep, broad, and longlasting. Learning from each other when so many of us are facing fear and physical isolation; it is essential that we find ways to connect with others and share our collective knowledge of solutions. We must remind ourselves that we are part of a greater community, and that our greater purpose is to emerge from this crisis with the tools to build a better world. During this season of purposeful PIVOT and SHIFTING, I partake in online conversations about solutions arising in your community and family, reconnect with people via Zoom, WhatsApp, and Google hangouts, and declutter (mind, body, and closet).
Please share one or two available resources that can help people right now.
Ask people what their biggest survival need is right now and what you can do. Often, people ask how they can help you. Most of the time, it is not genuine; it is a way of just being friendly -- it is like asking, "How are you doing?" without waiting for the answer. This is a time to mean it. Now, I am asking, "Really, what can I do to help?" Even if I am just serving as a resource, I want to help keep others afloat. Recently, a friend asked me how he could save money on volume purchases, and I mentioned trying group purchasing. I connected him to a friend, who is an expert on the topic. I don't know whether he ended up doing anything with that information, but I at least connected him to a person who was a lot smarter than I am on the topic. Do you know where something low in stock can still be acquired? Do you have a cousin who does personal finance consulting? Are you friendly with investors who are still looking for strong bets in this economy? These are all assets you can share to help others survive. As we all adjust to this NEW normal, its important to plan for LONG term success. These are a few things I am doing to SECURE my place amid the SHIFT.
What is one of the biggest challenges you have overcome?
Early in my career I was given the opportunity to run a small business. We had outside investors and a great opportunity in front of us. I will not go into the full story but, what I can tell you is that my communication skills at that time prevented me from ever moving that business and opportunity forward in a meaningful way. Ever since then I strive to work with coaches to ensure my communication skills are always in development. Communication is the way we connect with others. I constantly want to be improving it.
What was one action that helped you overcome this challenge?
I started making contracts with myself to deliver success. I found this to be particularly valuable when I was struggling with belief, commitment and/or motivation. Additionally, I found that by formalizing an arrangement detailing my goals and when I will deliver it, I am much more likely to be successful. This may seem a slightly bizarre approach, but the more formal the contract, the greater the chances of delivering on commitment to it. Your contract raises the selective importance of your goal, and provides the necessary motivation to persist with the appropriate amount of work until you have delivered success. Asking a third party, someone close to you, to witness the contract will raise the importance of the contract and the responsibility on you to deliver success. Having made a contract, place it in a prominent place, like the fridge. This will increase the importance of your commitment to the contract and raise the profile of the reward once you deliver success.
What advice would you give to someone that is ashamed to share their story?
We are silently judging them, and the verdict is not good. It is not just the people around us that are confused. We are just as perplexed by our own behavior. This said, talking about myself is one of the things that makes me most uncomfortable. There are a million other things I would rather discuss than myself and my stories. There is a reason for this – it is vulnerable to tell your personal stories. It requires a lot of emotional and mental energy for me to feel okay sharing my stories, and I know that I am certainly not alone. Moving into a place where I am (slightly) more comfortable being vulnerable with people is something that I have been working on for years. That means being authentic. Certainly, easier said than done. The answers to most of my “what if” questions are almost always “yes.” Yes, I will learn new things that I wish would be in the book called LIFE.
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